What Children Want

Back in September of 1985, Quote Magazine published ten behaviors children ages 8 to 14 identified as qualities they wanted in parents. These young people, from 24 countries, agreed on ten traits they believed were important for all parents to possess. Here they are:

1. They want harmony. They do not want their parents to have unresolved and destructive conflict in front of them.

2. They want love. They wish to be treated with the same affection as other children in the family.

3. They want honesty. And to be told the truth.

4. They want acceptance. They desire mutual tolerance from both parents.

5. They want their parents to like their friends. They want their friends to be welcomed in the home.

6. They want closeness. They desire comradeship with their parents.

7. They want their parents to pay attention to them and answer their questions.

8. They want consideration. They do not want to be embarrassed or punished in front of friends.

9. They want positive support. They wish for their parents to concentrate on their good points rather than their weaknesses.

10. They want consistency. They desire parents to be constant in their affections and moods.

While these qualities were identified over 40 years ago, it is likely that a survey taken today would identify many of the same traits. These children want what all of us want - respect, consideration, and love.

How many of these qualities do you embody in your parenting? Are there any you would like to focus upon more or change within your relationship with your children? 

Talking with a professional can help. We’re here to support you with improving communication and connection within your family.