Every couple gets into arguments!
No relationship is perfect
When we get into arguments we often use the 4 Horsemen (see OTC Ep 11 – Relationship 911 Part 1). We go through Emotional Flooding or Diffuse Physiological Arousal (see OTC Ep 12 – Relationship 911 Part 2). Sadly, what we don’t know how to do is come back after the argument and repair the damage done. This episode unpacks helpful steps to do just that.
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In This Episode
John talks about the importance of making a repair after the damage has been done using the Gottman’s Aftermath of an Incident and Chapman’s 5 Love Languages of an Apology. Going through all of the steps of the Aftermath of an Incident – What I Felt, Accepting Responsibility for My Part, Acknowledging My Triggers, How This Connects to My Past, What We Can Do Differently Next Time – helps to promote full and clear understanding as well as growth and emotional intimacy in our relationships. Knowing yours and your partners preferred Apology Language helps in this process.
SOME OF THE HIGHLIGHTS FROM EP. 13:
- Dr. Gary Chapman’s book the 5 Love Languages of Apology is a vital concept
- Know the steps for the Gottman’s Aftermath of Incident technique
OTC Ep. 14 – David Beard – The Power of Positive Brainwashing
Meet John Dennis
John is a licensed professional counselor with over 14 years of experience who specializes in counseling for individuals, couples, children, and adolescents. He focuses on working with anxious teens and adults, couples who are struggling to connect with one another, and those dealing with grief and loss.